If you find yourself in a situation where you have to deal with a cheating partner, you might want to consider your options before deciding to forgive and forget.
Studies have shown that people who cheat on their partner are more likely to do it again, even if they feel guilty about doing it the first time.
If you’ve ever thought to yourself that a cheater doesn’t change, science agrees with you. Here’s why.
The Brain Learns to Lie
When a partner cheats, the act of lying about it can create patterns in the brain that makes it easier for the person to cheat again.
This can turn into a slippery slope because even the guilt of lying can diminish with time and cause the person to lie about more than cheating.
This can put a great deal of strain on a relationship and obviously create a lot of trust issues.
A study conducted in London, England took brain scans of people’s brains when they were lying and found that people become desensitized to it, making it easier to lie about anything they want over time.
It’s Not All Them
If you think it is all your partner’s fault that you got cheated on, think again. New studies have shown that people who have been cheated on in their first relationship are twice as likely to be cheated on in subsequent relationships.
You might want to take a long look in the mirror if you find yourself being cheated on more than once.
However, people who did cheat once during a long term relationship were shown to be up to three times more likely to cheat again in other relationships.
It Might Be In Your Head
If you have been cheated on in the past, you might be more suspicious of future partners. One study showed that people who had been cheated on were four times more likely to accuse their new partners of cheating, without evidence, based on previous experience.
You can imagine this makes for a difficult and uncomfortable relationship.
It’s Not All in the Past
It can be hard to get over a cheating partner and unfortunately, there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to forgiving them and moving on.
Some people choose to try to work things out, and some people leave immediately upon learning of their infidelity.
Whether you believe your partner’s promises to never cheat again or not, science says they are likely to do it again.
So, if you find yourself having to make choices about your cheating partner, remember that the old adage of once a cheater, always a cheater sticks around for a reason.
You might want to seek some counselling for your relationship if you decide to continue on because you can’t be in a trusting and loving relationship if you are always holding the cheating partner at knife point.
Something’s gotta give if the two of you are going to work things out.